Netizens defended Frankie Pangilinan through the hashtag #HijaAko after she chided television host Ben Tulfo for telling women that how they dress prompts sex offenders to do sexual abuse.
The daughter of Mega Star Sharon Cuneta and Senator Francis “Kiko” Pangilinan tweeted last Saturday, June 14, about a now-deleted Facebook post from the Lucban Municipal Police Station, telling off women to dress properly to avoid harassment.
“STOP TEACHING GIRLS HOW TO DRESS?? TEACH PEOPLE NOT TO RAPE,” Frankie said.
By Saturday evening, the BITAG Live host tagged Frankie in a tweet, calling her “hija” and telling her that a rapist or a juvenile sex offender’s “desire to commit a crime will always be there” while warning “sexy ladies” to be careful with how they dress.
“All they need is an opportunity, when to commit the crime. Sexy ladies, careful with the way you dress up! You are inviting the beast,” Tulfo went on.
Frankie clapped back, countering his tweet with three statements about rape culture and how someone dresses is not an opportunity for sexual assault.
“Calling me hija will not belittle my point,” she concluded in her tweet.
- rape culture is real and a product of this precise line of thinking, where the behavior is normalized, particularly by men.— hija (@kakiep83) June 14, 2020
- the way anyone dresses should not be deemed as ‘opportunity’ to sexually assault them. ever.
- calling me hija will not belittle my point. https://t.co/bLbtEDVGBn
She also replied to her tweet with a screenshot of a Facebook post from BITAG Live, the official page of Tulfo’s show. His post pressed how sex maniacs and rapists cannot be taught how to control their sexual desires and commit crimes.
“Ang tanging magagawa ay manamit ng tama, Huwag nating pukawin ang pagnanasa nila. Ito ang iyo magagawa,” Tulfo wrote.
“Bago natin sila baguhin, baguhin muna natin ang sarili’t pag-iisip natin. Gets mo, Hija?” he went on, adding that Frankie’s father Kiko authored the Juvenile Justice and Welfare act that discusses how children and teenagers who do crimes should be handled accordingly.
A few hours after her exchange with Tulfo, Frankie tweeted out the hashtag #HijaAko, containing a screenshot of a message from an anonymous person who said they would “also like to sign up for the hija label if that’s what ben tulfo’s calling girls who fight for their rights as human beings.”
The hashtag trended on Twitter, with netizens backing Frankie and slamming Tulfo’s remarks that blame women for sexual abuse. Other netizens shared their own experiences with sexual harassment through the hashtag.
men who are trying to downplay #hijaako kasi "nilalahat" daw ang mga lalake ???? what do you want ???? do you want some praise ???? because hindi ka ganon ???? do u realize how obnoxious u sound ???? napaka tone-deaf ng arguments niyo when it's not even about you. manahimik kayo.— rio (@grrandpa) June 14, 2020
i was thirteen when i was molested while commuting— i #JUNKTERRORBILLNOW (@SpectacledOne) June 14, 2020
i was wearing a baggy hoodie and pants
i did not ask for it to happen
sexual assault has nothing to do with what you're wearing
putangina mo pnp and ben tulfo#HijaAko #artph pic.twitter.com/PMYk9dcdLA
tw: r***— a white genderless giraffe (@bicolexpresses) June 14, 2020
7 years old: i was sleeping, in my usual pajamas. my late teenage cousin barged in, removed everything, and then he started doing it.
20 years old: i was sleeping in some pair of sportswear. my trusted colleague lay beside me, and then he started doing it. #HijaAko
Sexy women are raped.— Ai dela Cruz (@aidelacruz) June 14, 2020
Thin women are raped.
Fat women are raped.
Even BABIES and ANIMALS are raped.
Stop thinking it’s about what we wear.
It’s not about “good” men being tempted by women’s sexy clothing.
It’s about those men being rapists.
Educate THEM, not us.#HijaAko
Lauren, along with YouTube star Janina Vela and singers Shanne Dandan and Janine Teñoso, shared their experiences with sexual harassment through the hashtag.
I was at a bar in Boracay, sober, with my friends and a guy kept harrassing everyone there. He kept talking to me and bothering me and just grabbed my boobs out of nowhere. I was fully covered up even at the beach and yet he violated me publicly. #HijaAko https://t.co/loYgJKru41— Lauren Young (@loyoung) June 14, 2020
i was 17 when a man slipped his hand into my oversized denim jumper. 18, when a man unzipped my large coat to touch me. at 19, i was wearing baggy pants, only still to be groped.— Janina Vela ✨🇵🇭 (@janinavela) June 14, 2020
stop blaming women for their clothes.
start holding men accountable for their actions.#HijaAko!!!
Thank you for using your voice, Frankie! Laban, mga hija!