Xian to bullying victims: “Speak up. There’s people who care.”

PHOTO: Anna Pingol, VIDEO: Melo Balingit

PHOTO: Anna Pingol, VIDEO: Melo Balingit

Sa kainitan ng mga usap-usapan noong Disyembre 2018 tungkol sa viral bullying incident involving Ateneo junior high school students na naganap sa loob ng lavatory, hindi napigilan ng aktor na si Xian Lim na mag-post sa kanyang IG account ng mga naranasan din niyang pambu-bully noong 12 years old siya sa Amerika. Nanariwa daw kasi sa alaala niya ang mga nangyari noon at ginusto niyang kahit paano ay may ma-inspire siya sa mga kabataang biktima ng bullying ngayon to speak out at wag gayahin ang ginawa niyang pagsasarili sa mga dinanas.

 

Sa December 21, 2018 post niya na may title na: “NO TO BULLYING. NO TO HARASSMENT. NO TO POWER TRIPPING.”, kung saan nilakipan din niya ng mga larawan niya noong siya’y 12 years old, ni-recount ni Xian ang ilang mga insidente ng mga dinanas niyang pangbu-bully.

 

His full post read:

“I just really have to speak up about this current issue we have right now. I do not usually rant on my social media pages so please forgive me on this one. Skip the post it you’re not interested. First of let me explain. This is my picture back in middle school. I was about 12.
I had no friends. I was called a loser for being an introvert and not knowing how to talk to others kids. I was called a FOB (FRESH OFF THE BOAT) for having a really strong accent. Kids would beat me up and spit on me and made my life hell. I didn’t want to got to school.
I made up excuses and told my mom I felt sick. I did not feel safe. Bullies told that I would get I would get stabbed if I were to snitch on them..

“One time I cried in front of the whole class because people would laugh and quietly say bad things about me. It made me a miserable kid. This made me hate school. I spoke up one time and snitched which resulted in me getting beat up some more, kicked in the face and a knife pointed in my neck. So I stayed quiet. I ate my lunch in the bathroom. I kept my lunch money in my underwear just in case I get “pocket checked”.

 

“You do not want this to happen to your kids trust me. You do not want this to happen to your brothers and sisters. You do not want this to happen to anyone. It has to stop.

 

“Huge mistake I made was I kept quiet because I was scared. I did not tell my parents. I did not tell the authorities. I just let things happen.

 

“If you’re being bullied right now, please speak up. We are here for you. There are others like you who feel scared and defeated. Life is precious. Life is short. Our time in this world given to us is not enough. Do whatever means necessary to have a happy, balanced life.

 

“If there are any organization who need me, please reach out. DM me.”

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

A post shared by Xian Lim (@xianlimm) on

 

Kamakailan, sa press conference ng pelikula niyang Hanggang Kailan (kung saan leading lady niya si Louise delos Reyes) ay muling nauisa si Xian tungkol dito. Sinimulan ni reporter Allan Diones ang pagtatanong at panghihingi ng ilang detalye pa tungkol sa mga bullying na naranasan niya.

 

“Ang nangyari kasi sa akin…dumaan ako sa point na ’yong incident na ’yon parehong-pareho…na ’yong kasama ko, pinapahalik sa akin ’yong sapatos niyanangyari talaga sa akin ’yonsa akin ginawa ko, I mean…takot kasi ako, e…I mean, pag nakita n’yo naman sa picture ko, muka talaga akong ka-bully-bully na tao na walang kaibigan….”

 

Umabot pa raw hanggang high school ang mga naranasan niyang pambu-bully.

 

“Kinukuhanan ako ng pera, kumakain ako sa CR…pinaka-nakakatakot na age ’yong 12, 13, 14. I didn’t enjoy my high school years. I was a scared kid.”

 

Hindi raw niya alam kung bakit siya laging nata-target. Napagti-trip-an lang daw siguro siya. Pero dahil dito ay naging takot siya sa tao kaya’t small circle of friends lang ang meron siya. Hindi rin daw niya sinabi sa nanay niya ang mga nangyayari dahil ayaw na niyang dagdagan pa ang mga iniisip nito dahil single mom ito at mag-isang binubuno ang pagpapalaki at pagpa-paaral sa kanya.

 

Na-overcome lang daw niya ang lahat when he discovered sports, particularly basketball, later on.

 

At the moment, sa pagkaka-alam ni Xian ay nakakulong na ang dalawa sa mga naging tormentors niya; habang nabaril at namatay naman ang isa. In short, mas pinili talaga ng mga iyon ang madilim na buhay and they eventually faced the consuquences. Habang si Xian ay namamayagpag ngayon bilang aktor—na sumusubok ding maging film producer, director, at scriptwriter.

 

“I felt the need na mag-post lang…maybe it can help…I encourage people to just speak up and not be scared,” dagdag ni Xian.

 

Bilang panghuli, sinabi ni Xian na sa mga nakakaranas nang ganoon, wag nilang isipin na nag-iisa sila dahil “there are people that care.”

 

 

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